In many ways, this is what a HEALTHY MARRIAGE (and really – any significant relationship: e.g. parent/child; friends; etc.) requires:

I’m willing and able
If you wanna kick this rock around
If you’ve got a bone to pick with me
If you’ve got a flag planted in the ground
Oh, I’ll stay here ’til morning
Oh, we can fight like we used to fight
Bony-limbed, red-faced, and teary-eyed
Under the glow of the TV light
I’d be willing and able

IF SOMEONE IS UNWILLING TO TALK (talk through the hard, confusing, dirty, unpleasant, inefficient, etc.) STUFF – then the relationship deteriorating or defunct.